D-Word Series Part 42: Talk

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Hi, to all the Deep Thoughts readers! Happy Friday everyone!  I feel like I've been neglecting on acknowledging how truly fun Fridays are lately.

Member that? 

Remember when Monday's came we would be always looking forward to when Friday's would come? You should remember that. It was only less than a month ago. Yup, I know it does seem longer. You Know what? I don't know. Maybe I'm totally off on dates due to everything going on right now.Yep. Would any of us really be surprised?

All I know is it's estimated to be around the right time frame. Just picture that it's pretty close.

Yeah, reason being? Folks, we all know what is happening in our world today. One thing is for sure. Never would I have ever imagined I would be quarantined and stuck at home due to hoping not to get contaminated by some virus. 

Shoot, the word quarantine was  not even ever in my vocabulary. Until these times.

However, it is what it is. And, we  just have to remember that God is bigger than whatever "it" is. God is bigger than any battle i am facing.

And, I need not ever to worry  because God Is always right by my side ready to walk through the fire with me! I am never alone!

Continuing on with the D-Word Series. Part 42: Talk. I am really thinking there are some husbands and some wives out there that can really use  the message in my reading. Not to say that my marriage has any immunity.  Joe and I are just like any other married couple. We fight.

For this reading,  I wanted to share some deep thoughts that just may be of help to you. Perhaps, in the future? Or, maybe even now?!

And, that is this. When our spouse would say something that sounds hurtful to 

us, do we ever say anything? Well, maybe, or probably. But, not all of the time.  Right?

See? That is not a good thing.  What I mean is that your best bet is to be 100% how honest and truthful with all of your feelings!

I know I've been there with you fellow wives.  Husbands? You just most of the times know a little or a lot of how your wives feel. Not 100% sometimes though. That's why we, wives have to make sure we tell them. Because the majority of the time, they will be wrong with  knowing exactly how the wives are feeling.

Pause break!  I bet you all did not know quarantining and social distancing is in the bible.  I didn't know until I heard a message from my pastor. Can't remember specifics. Just that someone  became ill with a disease and had to quarantine himself to save someone else  from getting sick.

Back to the reading. What was I saying? Oh yes, the majority of the time the husbands will not know how their wives really feel. The only way you will know is if their wives tell them straight out.  So, wives when we don't say anything, then guess who is at fault?

Remember your husband can not read your mind.

Most if not all wives will do something like this. Husband's will harshly ask their wives, "WHAT'S WRONG?" 

Then, what happens?  I don't know. It's like I totally freeze. I definitely know there's something wrong. Joe can definitely tell from my nonverbal actions especially my facial expression that there is something wrong.

But, to reiterate I don't know what to say. Or, is it because I don't know how to say what I want to really say? Usually, we wives will answer our husbands question of what is wrong with you, by this. " I don't know or nothing!" Are you like that too?

If you said no? I almost would like to call all of you guys out and say that's BS! But, I won't do that. WHY? Because everyone is different. Yes, your reactions to your spouse's comments may be totally different.

What I am going to do is this.  I'm going to share what me and my husband would do when we find ourselves in times like those. 

Who knows? Maybe it to will Help you guys in your marriae? It's worth a try right,

My suggestion is to shut up.  Are you confused now?  Sam's title is Talk and now she is telling us to shut up? 

I know. I know. Let me explain more of what I mean. When I say shut up, I mean to do that temporarily.

Believe me, if the 2 of you keep talking while you are still in a fight?  Things will only get worse.

So, what do we do Sam? Well like I said  The 2 of you should just  Shut up.  I mean Try not to talk anymore about what you are fighting about.

Perhaps, try something like this. "  Hey Babe , I don't think my mind is in the right set of thinking right now.  It's been a long day. And, I'm sure you are very tired. How would you feel if we just temporarily forget about the past 10 minutes? We can revisit this whole day another time? What about in a couple of days?Let's maybe Grab some coffee or get some lunch. And, our minds will be less in a defensive mode. What do you think Babe?

Leviticus 13:45-46

If you ever have leprosy, you must tear your clothes, leave your hair uncombed, cover the lower part of your face, and go around shouting, “I'm unclean! I'm unclean!” As long as you have the disease, you are unclean and must live alone outside 

the camp.

1 Timothy 2:12 

I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.

Matthew 19:4-6 

He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, ad the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate

 Love & The Out Come: King Of My Heart

TBC........