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Oops I thought I posted this guess I didn't. Well here you go.
It takes me a while. Oh......God knows I'm working on it though. Put my delayed reactions in the mix? (Dramatic Pause). Oh boy, does it get messy!
What? You ask me if I ever had to deal with grudges with my spouse? You are darn right! I even had to get some serious help from like a shrink for a few months.
That was a big mistake. And, a waste of money.
Well, No, I shouldn't say that. I don't know why God allowed what happened to happen. But, it did. So, let me focus on the positives from that experience. I gained a friend I needed at the time from my therapist, even if temporary.
I really thank my sister in Christ, Belle, for making me realize that I did not need such professional help anymore. All I needed was God!
. M
Please understand, Don't get me wrong because I do believe that those types of professions would bessentials. So, if you believe you need to see a shrink then go see a shrink. I am just saying. THOUGHT I needed one. But, I guess all I needed was God's help. I got better within time. Anyway, that was my example of a "grudge" experience. That example had to have been more than 10 years ago.
I ask myself now " Maybe that whole experience happened for reason. " And, could that reason be to help me grow and not hold grudges throughout my marriage?
No marriage is perfect. Not Mine! Not Yours! NO MARRIAGE!
Our spouse may hurt us. They may speak words that are like a dagger to the heart. They may even physicall hurt us. I don't really know the whole story with you guys.
However, I will say this. I know it can be so difficult. We need to forgive. A grudge will then probably come. We all need to see that the grudge should definitely go.
Once you chose to forgive your spouse, don't bring it up anymore. Still think about those things every now and then? What the heck?
2 possible reasons come to mind. 1st of all, Did we really, really Forgive our spouse? 2nd thing is maybe we did. I don't know if there is truth 2 my next thoughts. However, it does make sense in my head. :)
The evil One probably gets joy when he reminds us of the hurt we felt, from our spouse that one specific time.
Personally, I thought that I had done that with my past experience with the one lady. (Like right now) But, thoughts would just creep in my memory. But, I'm going to stop talking about that now. Because that is just making my heart hurt.
Anyway, Folks Do not hold grudges. Especially with their spouses. Believe me holding the grudge might really hurt you! Physically? Mentally? Maybe your health.
Fellow spouses I try to forgive and forget, least by the end of day. Now, does that happen all of the time? Heck no! I'm certain there are some instances way back in my mind and times I chose forgiveness. Time must the only way I was able to forget. But, a ride to you then when the reminder of that hits me and sank the pain is like a double the hurt reminer. My guess of why that could be? I don't
know. Maybe because of unforgiveness? I know know if there is truth to that. But come and does make sense in my head. Premember that was just a guess.
I think the most important thing we need to remember is this pen letting go of referring in this then make of prayed because when morning comes it's a new day a new spouse she have a clean slate. Try it. It's so hard to do. But, just Try it!
CeCe Winan's: Great Is Thy Faithfulness
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