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Most wives, well at least from what I know go through a stage of tears. Who knows, or maybe it's the husband who is a cryer in the marriage? That's possible too. People are different. And, spouses are people.
Now, first of all I am not one to call myself out. However, we all should not be surprised if I say you better believe there is a time I may shed a tear about whatever.
I wouldn't call myself a compulsive cryer. I have my moments. Seldom, as they may be. Pretty sure my husband thinks the moments are more than seldom.
But, I will get into that more in a bit. I am just going to go by what I see from my marriage. To reiterate? Does it apply to you as a wife or a husband? Maybe it does?
I just have some Deep Thoughts I want to share. And, my thoughts just may be what we need to hear..... right now. I would not be surprised. God works in mysterious ways.
Wives, are your tears sincere? Are they coming from a place of feeling-hurt? Would a hug from hubby help the situation a little bit?
Since, I don't really know you. I can't really help you 100% of the way when it comes to that department. That is why I always tell you guys to find out yours and your spouse's love languages. You know what? Let me help you. It's Monday. Here. https://www.scienceofpeople.com/love-language-quiz-list/
You know how long that took me? 5 seconds. You're welcome. :) Back to the writing.
Over the course of my marriage I know there have been times I cried when my husband and I fought. Did I mean to? Did I want to? Answer is No!
I think sometimes there are some husbands out there who don't understand when we wives cry? At times we really can't help it.
Yeah, true I am an actress. So, yeah I can hold in my crying if I have to. Or, I can cry on cue if thats what the scene wants.
However, when it's not for any scene? When it's not part of the character's dialogue? That is when it will get tricky. That is when it's difficult to hold in the tears. When it gets personal? Like between me and my husband? Nope, tears? Aint got no control over that!
Fellow wives , I have no idea how your husband thinks. During those times, when we wives just can't hold it in any more? And, we let the tears out. Does your husband get mad? Does your husband get sad?
Wives, seriously please think about it. There are some husbands out there that just don't know. No, they really don't.
They think they know. But, they don't. What do I mean? Husbands, let me seriously, talk to you for a second.
Ok, husband? Just STOP. Please stop. Stop. And, really be mindful that your actions of displaying anger? That doesn't help the situation. It actually only hurts both you and your wife.
Ok, wives when we cry why exactly do we cry? It's not to spite our husband right? Are we purposely using tears to fight the battle for us? I hope not. Just keep in mind this.
The more one will cry? The more the other one is going to sound angry And say hurtful things.
Also, keep in mind the one that is crying is also hurting the other one. Why? Because, the other one feels helpless.
The Lord created husbands to provide for their wife, amongst other things. So, when the husband really can't do anything to stop their wife from crying? What will happen? Ding ding ding you got it!
The important thing to just realize and really Digest in your mind is this. Yes, your husband will probably get really angry at times. Is the anger really Directed towards you? Or, maybe it's the tears?
You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle. Are they not in your book?
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
Those who sow in tears shall reap with shouts of joy!
For the Lamb in the midst of the throne will be their shepherd, and he will guide them to springs of living water, and God will wipe 4away every tear from their eye
Third Day: Cry Out To Jesus
TBC...
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