Ok, here goes I get angry at others. I get angry at myself. I get angry at things that are not even worth my time or anger. I get angry. I wouldn't label myself as a person who has some serious issues with anger and should enroll myself in some type of group of angry people who really need help. Although, who knows perhaps, there are some people reading this who do get easily angered and do suffer from deadly anger and really do need some serious help? Maybe they should? I really don't know.
What do I do when I get angry? Well, after the hurricane of anger surpasses. Utilize your mind to formulate what all goes in that hurricane. I'll give you a hint and maybe you can add on to it. Cussing, putting people down or saying words you later regret, etc. Am I causing a Eureka moment? See told you, we all go through it. So, how do I deal with it? Well, let me disect a time when I was really angry. First of all, never keep your anger secret or hold it in. That would just be disastrous. And, if held in the true anger is bound to erupt at a time not even pertaining to the current act. Believe me, that just leaves one dumbfounded because he or she was not aware of the act that genuinely made you angry. Tell the person!
Give yourself some distance from the person you are angry with. It gives you and the other angry person time to calm down and collect your thoughts. If the parties are stuck together like in a car don't cover your ears! I know it's tempting at times. The other person will hate it. Because, it is making them think you are blocking them out and not listening to their words. Believe me, that would not be good. And unless you are being asked questions, keep silent. PRAY!
The next thing I try to do. And everything I am writing out right now, seriously my heart wants to do and sometimes I do try to do what I am writing. The operative word being try ok? I know the next thing is hard. But, again wait until the hurricane is over. Then, I begin by apologizing for my mistakes, and if I hurt the person in anyway, by my actions or wods. I definitely do not begin pointing out his or her mistakes. I am pretty sure he or she knows they hurt me as well. I let God speak to their hearts and hopefully they will listen, But, It is not my place to point it out. I guess I just should choose to be forgiving but I am still working on that. I apologized and then it is up to that person to be forgiving or not.
There are most likely other steps I follow, but this is all I remember for now. Hope it is helpful! Sometimes, it really takes time for true forgiveness to soak in. We can say it with our mouths but it may take awhile to travel to our hearts. I think that makes perfect sense. Because, when I am ticked off it doesn't rapidly turn the switch to being "ok.." So, I guess we have to let time be the x-factor for
complete healing.
Here are some verses that may give you deeper thoughts...
Ephesians 4:26-31
"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.James 1:19-20
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.Proverbs 29:11
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.James 1:20
for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.Proverbs 19:11
A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.Ecclesiastes 7:9
Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.Proverbs 15:18
A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel.Colossians 3:8
But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.James 4:1-2
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God.Proverbs 16:32
Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.Proverbs 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered,Matthew 5:22
But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his brother, 'Raca, ' is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, 'You fool!' will be in danger of the fire of hell.Psalm 37:8-9
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret--it leads only to evil. For evil men will be cut off, but those who hope in the LORD will inherit the land.Psalm 7:11
God is a righteous judge, a God who expresses his wrath every day.2 Kings 11:9-10
The commanders of units of a hundred did just as Jehoiada the priest ordered. Each one took his men--those who were going on duty on the Sabbath and those who were going off duty--and came to Jehoiada the priest. Then he gave the commanders the spears and shields that had belonged to King David and that were in the temple of the LORD.2 Kings 17:18
So the LORD was very angry with Israel and removed them from his presence. Only the tribe of Judah was left,Proverbs 14:29
A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.
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