Maybe Not So Great Expectations

If you guys believe that all you expect to happen, want to happen, think or assume will happen actually does happen, prepare for a rude awakening or surprise that things do not always meet your expectations.  I have discovered over my years of living before and after knowing Christ that expectations are a pretty big, significant and if not handled successfully, tender subject, that very well may result in very bad miscommunication.

Let's say so and so expects something from you, and you don't deliver. What's going to happen? Um, Well, I am thinking the other person is going to become pretty upset with you.  Maybe, give you the silent treatment? Maybe explode with unnecessary rage that just might be really hurtful,   Maybe not do anything at all? Who knows?  What I do know is not meeting someone's expectations they have of you can be cause for disastrous conclusions.

How do we try to prevent that? Let me share my thoughts.  First of all, do not ever assume the other person knows what you are thinking. He or she cannot read minds. Please remember that. So, when you suddenly get mad at the person for not doing what you expected, don't be surprised when the other person is confused and somewhat dumbfounded because he or she didn't even know what was done wrong or what offended you.  Is that fair? I don't think so. Do you? That's what I thought. 

So, you share your thoughts, feelings, and/or expectations with the other person?  You think your expectations will certainly be met right? Wrong! Now, I am not even going to touch on the reason why the expectation may not be met.  Maybe, the other person was thinking other thoughts that were preoccupying their mind,.  Uh oh,  they were not concentrating on what you expected to happen. I really don't know what the reason may be, that your expectation wasn't met.  But, all I can say and advise on is to not get too mad.  And, think if the other person actually had any idea what your expectations were.  If they did then, rewind to an earlier time and maybe you and the person should communicate your feelings before an argument happens,  Who knows that might work!? Try it? It might just prevent an argument from happening.  Who likes those?