Fibs ln Marriages Part 5: I am Entitled To What I Want From My Spouse / I am the king or queen of the world!

Before I start my writing, I have a lot of shout outs to give out. First of all, praise God because me and my husband really believe that God cares for his children so much that he allowed for us to have another cat. Her name is Gideon Gold. She is a female cat but she has a boy's name. But that's not rare anymore right? She goes by the name Giddy. The first person that I want to give a shout out to is Clare. She's like the mommy of all the cats in the Anti-Cruelty Society. Not only did she help us out, but I was also able to give her a card. The next person I went to say hello to is Marquita. Marquita was also a worker at the Anti-Cruelty Society. The next person is Adrian who was also there yesterday. And the final person I want to give a shout out to is to Nikki. Well, thanks again for helping us out yesterday with everything so that we can bring home our beautiful Giddy. I pray that you will be encouraged by my writings! Alright, now for my writing....

That is such a blatant lie. Read that again and listen carefully to what you are saying.  Honeys, our spouses are really not required to give us anything. Therefore, we need to get our head out of the clouds if they are, and realized that we are not the kings or queens of the world.  And, what we have with our spouse is truly a blessing that God allowed for us to have in our lives.

The first thing we really have to realize is that there really is nothing that we are entitled to when it comes to our spouse. We may want and desire for our spouses to be loving, caring, clean, wonderful,thoughtful, caring, responsible, hardworking. and all the ways we personally desire. However, don't feel like you ultimately deserve those things from your spouse.

Please don't misunderstand. Letting go of your feeling that you are entitled to have those things is just that.  Simply letting go of a feeling you are entitled. However, you can still desire and want those things. You can pray for those things to come out of your spouse, if they don't already, that is. That is, if it is what you need to come from your spouse. Remember our Lord provides our needs, Lord willing.

Now, let's touch a little on expectations with our spouses. If we want our marriage not to falter but to thrive, we need to realize that our spouses don't have to meet our expectations.

Did you know, it really matters tremendously how you say things with your spouses? For example, instead of saying. Do this or I get this, all the time. Perhaps, we should put the ball in our spouses court, so to speak, and say if you are willing would you be able to do this or something to that effect...?  See the difference in the wording? Personally, I think there is something making our spouses feel like they're in control. Well, maybe that is just really with husband's. However it could be with wives too. Everyone is different.

I'm going to offer out a challenge for you guys. Instead of offering your spouses an attitude of being demanding, maybe we should try an attitude of humility. Folks, let's humbly ask our spouses to meet our needs. Remember, the words we use and the volume and tone of our voice really matters.

TBC...................

Ephesians 4:29 ESV

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Proverbs 12:18 ESV

There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

James 4:6 ESV

But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
Encouraging thought of the day: 

Enjoy your day!  And remember, God is able to change your spouse in ways he knows what's best for both of you.