This Takes Some Work

Morning! Okay, I am going to do a writing today that hopefully will help marriages that are about to get in trouble. I'm going to give my deep thoughts on what fellow wives may or may not want from their marriage. I understand, that every wife is different. So, husbands I suggest really taking into consideration their "love languages."

I'm no marriage scholar. I'm just a married woman who will experience things. So, I'm just going to be speaking from my point of view. And if my perception of things is similar to your own wife. Then prepare for a glorious marriage!

You guys ever forget your married sometimes? Because of your comfortable position with each other. We tend to forget something very important. And, that is cultivating romance in the relationship. Husbands, wives like to be known and told they are your first priority. Well, your second priority. Your first one is of course God. It's funny my husband sometimes says  I am his number 2!

Anyway, I do think most wives like to feel loved. I'm not saying it always has to be the saying of " I love you." I am saying it is you expressing to your wife their love language. That's why I say it is so imperative to find out what your love languages are to each other. 

To the wives, if your husband isn't all about Romance. I challenge you to try this. Pray to God and ask him to inspire your husband start to start cultivating Romance. Try and ask the Lord to provide the time and resources that will always make it like you guys are dating one another.
Remember that early times, when everything about one another was a surprise? And it was fun getting to know each other! 

Start praying to God that your husband will look at you like he did when he first met you, or when he first fell in love with you. You guys remember what that looks like? Do you guys remember how that felt? 

Oh, and this is for the wives.. Another thing, definitely make sure before you all are about to engage in sexual activities, make sure this. How is your husband feeling? Is he feeling stressed? Overwhelmed? If so, do not force things where either party is going to feel yucky. Put that off to the side for a while. Trust me.

Your spouse is a gift from God. And, God wants husbands to love their wives extravagantly! And God wants wives to respond and treat their husbands respectfully, always!

Take it from me, once you begin showing your husband more and more respect, your husband might buy you a steak dinner tonight or take unn trip to Hawaii. Wouldn't that be nice ladies?

Remember I mentioned before in a previous writing, if we would look at romance movies and novels, we don't see or read the husband saying in the end of the movie I respect you babe! No, that's why wives are more about love and respect is what the husband's like.

I am thinking husbands probably wouldn' mind hearing I respect you babe! They still want love too though. Ask your husband about that. I'm pretty sure they would rather feel respect.

Husbands, go out of your way to make your wife feel Worthy and loved! Wives, start thinking about making a to-do list of ways you can respect your husband. Scratching the back is always good I think They will love that.

If you guys are reading this now, and your thinking that your marriage is practically going down the drain. Well, first of all I say pray first. Then I say wives concentrate on the respecting part for your husband. Husbands concentrate on loving your wife more by using her love language.

I strongly repeat wives, buy a book or just go on Google and find out what your husband's Love Language is. And husbands, please do the same for your wife! I would love to know if you guys are taking my advice and  would be encouraged and would love to know if you guys see any changes for the better? God is totally using me to share his words to you guys! Hope this helps your marriage!

Ephesians 5:33 NASB

Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.

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