Trust Those

I know I really make my husband mad sometimes. By doing stupid things. By not thinking before I spoke or did something." I am fricking human!" That would usually be my excuse. Not a good thing to say. Frankly , what a cop out. Joe does or doesnt do things that seem negative to me as well. We are not in a perfet marriage. No marriage is perfect.

Dr. Emerson Eggerich, the author of the book Love and Respect and another marriage counselor, Marilyn Mariwec shared something that I think can really help marriages. Perhaps from going south and ending up in divorce.This shared advice told by the two must be pretty important and perhaps helpful to other marriages.And, I have read many examples, where I have read they are.

Now, I just hope and pray I myself would remember to do this more. What I am talking about is trusting each other's hearts. I need to remember more to trust my husband's heart.

My husband is a very logical person. And, he hates mess. And, he is married to me, the person who has uncontrollable fingers at times and that will usually end up messing something up.

I read somewhere  this one husband who left stuff everywhere, like wet towels. His wife hated that. He described his wife as the epitome of neatness. She was a very logical person. She didn't see the problem with walking a few steps to putting the wet towel on the towel rack. The husband always had thoughts in his mind and was thinking about something. 

So, he would forget a lot of the times. The important thing was he wouldn't purposely do that just to spite his wife. One time his wife put the wet towel and dangled it in front of his face. The husband grabbed the wet towel and did not want bad vibes in the air so he tried to be funny. He said, " Oh thank you, I was just about to hang this up."

I guess, that's exactly what I should, we married couples should do at times. Maybe just make a joke of it. In order not to step into the  "crazy cycle." ( EE ) We need to trust our spouse's heart

Believe me, I know it is oh so difficult to do. Why can't I remember that most of the time? When my husband does or doesn't do something loving to me, am I supposed to do something that will seem disrespectful to him? Of course not! That is where trusting each other's heart comes to play!

Ephesians 5:24/25

....wives should submit to their husbands in everything.25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church 

Chris August: Restore