Is Your Marriage Dying?

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I havae a personal question right now for you married couples. And, that is this. How is your sex life? See, I told you it was going to be personal. If I didn't before, now do I have your attention this morning? Hold on, you might be interested in what I have to say next.

Listen, I heard the other day from the ( Vertical Marriage Devotional Bible Study, my husband and I have recently started reading, some interesting words I wanted to share. That is something like this.

Before you were married, the evil one would do all he can to get you to have sex. Now, that you two are married, the evil one is doing all it can to make you two not have sex, at least not with each other.

That makes sense to me. The evil one is just doing its dirty, mean, and nasty job. 

That is try to not make you have sex with each other. Or at least not make you enjoy having sex with each other. I think he probably would just want you to fake it. And, that wouldn't be good because only one party was actually pleasured. I can imagine that may be the beginning of festering negative feelings about your spouse. Trust me, I don't think we want to be harboring bad feelings about sex and your spouse

Yep, you guys guessed it. See, God created men and women to enjoy the gift of sex! What do you think sex is for? Well, yes besides procreation. God made sex for a husband and a wife to enjoy one another, to be pleasured.

Folks, if that's not happening and you're not enjoying your spouse in the marital bed? Then, you guys have a problem. And, I suggest fixing that problem before something worse will happen.

Well, first of all admitting your problemit is a good first step. Now, your thoughts should be about how to fix that problem. I got three words. They are "SPICE IT UP!"

I heard somewhere a story about a woman

who dressed up for her husband in very sexy lingerie. The end result was they had the best sex in their entire life! My guess is that man really liked sexy visuals  LOL. Do you see what I'm getting at?? That is what I'm talking about. Find out what your partner likes. And, then show what he or she likes. 

We, husbands and wives have specific needs. And, when those needs are not being met, the men and women will try to get it somewhere else. And, that somewhere else, nine times out of 10, is not always good.

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God gave you your spouse so they can fulfill your needs and the marriage bed in the bedroom. The important thing is spouses should get pleasured from their spouse and their spouse only! Not other married or non married men or women! Not from dildos, vibrators, or other sexual devices! No, not from Porn! Not from being drunk on alcohol or high on drugs! And, no please don't do the masturbation AKA self pleasuring thing! Or any other ungodly ways 2 sexually satisfy yourself.

God gave you your spouse so he or she can give you pleasure and vice versa.  Please don't think otherwise. Please don't think of other ways of getting the pleasure God wants you to have.

What are you thinking? What are you going to tell me now? It's boring Sam! Oh okay, have you had a sit-down talk with your spouse about that? If so, then don't stop talking until you figure out how to spice up your sex life! If not, start with that. I'm not kidding do not stop talking until you figure out how to spice up your sex life!

Ask your spouse to tell you what their needs are. Tell them to be specific. Then, when it's your turn to talk, repeat it back to them. Sorry, I can't make any suggestions , because I don't know what the needs are! That is your job to find out for yourself. Looks like you have homework?! Yes?

I guess that explains the sky high divorce rate.

Chris August: Restore