DTFS Promise Series Part 7: Promise To Calm Hearts

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There is one word that I simply abhor my husband saying to me. I'm guessing that there may be other people who don't like the word I'm about to say. Maybe they don't care? I don't know. Really it totally depends on the context.

I simply and plainly and please don't say to me, hate it when someone tells me to Relax! I mean, it probably goes more with tone and how you say it. But, I don't know I think just don't say it!

Fellow wives do you feel me? Husbands listen up! When your wives are in need of help because they can't do something or whatever, help them first. I know you're human manly inclination is to begin talking about how you can fix whatever the problem is
And perhaps begins minutes of lecturing. Now, don't get me wrong please that's probably a good thing so we know for the future what to do or not to do. So thank you husbands.

However, there's a time for that. And in the Heat of the Moment? That is not the time.
In the Heat of the Moment, husbands show that you care by a hug or just by lending your ear and listening to your wife vent. If she cries don't tell her to stop crying. Again show her love! 

Husbands out there, I have been a wife for over 10 years. I know what I'm talking about. Husbands, just try what I am suggesting. And I promise you things will change. 

Because, that's how God made us. The husband's they are all about respect. The wives they just want to be loved and feel loved.

God says a plethora of times in the Bible that he, God calms our hearts. I don't think he likes it when our minds are like chaotic or we're stuck in physical ailments that will be pretty dangerous. It doesn't say verbatim in the Bible that God will relax our souls. I don't think. 

However it does pretty much play to the context. Oh, I have another perfect example. So, a few weeks ago Glady and I were actually at a McDonald's and there was two boys across the street gang related fighting. One of the boys shot at the McDonald's window and then went through the window inches away from my head by the way maybe centimeters. My poor caregiver she has better eyes than I do she saw the whole thing. Pooe Glady, she left Florida to come to this LOL. Poor Glady threw up when we got back to the condo. We were both in that traumatic situation. 

And we both had husbands that pretty much did the same thing. 

We both are not surprised with her husband's reaction about the whole thing. That's how they are built by God.

So this is what both shared the mindset in doing. Basically, they asked if we were okay. That was caring. Then, once that question was out the way it begin a lecture of what we shouldn't have been doing what we should be doing for next time what didn't happen but could have happened, so it could have been worse....

Again, husbands save it for another time. In the Heat of the Moment show your wife that you love her. Find out your wife's love languages. That is a good place to start.
Please don't get me wrong of course a wives also need respect and a  husband also needs love. That's just crazy talk if you don't believe it! I'm just saying be mindful the dominant factor for the man is respect for the wife it's love. Try it! Pray about it ! See what your. Heart is telling you to do. See and . Enjoy the change!

Psalm 107:29-30 

“He made the storm be still, and the waves of the sea were hushed. Then they were glad that the waters were quiet, and he brought them to their desired haven.”

TBC.....

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