Tongue Series Part 4: TONE Really Does Matter

You know how when you were in school and were thinking, " When  will I ever need to know this?" Well, for me I guess now is the time to share what I learned in school. I am a Communication major and really have been a Jill of all trades, when it came to positions requiring a degree in a suitable field. I have done, sales, assistant producer at WBBM Am News Radio, Copywriting at an Advertising firm,  Reception, and Marketing, even bank work in my younger years before graduating college.  So, I would definitely say I have  definitely been through much.

I guess now, with my disability progressing, The Lord has other plans for me. So, Happy Thoughts! I truly am blessed by all God has provided despite my limitations.  :) With all that being said, I truly believe that now as a wife "tone" is at another level of importance.  Seriously! Let me share my thoughts, and again everyone is entitled to their own thoughts. I am going to use a conversation with my husband.  Now, since there is no sound in this writing, I will do my best to be very detailed in my words as if one is actually hearing the tone or can at least paint a picture of the scenario.  I'll try my best to be very descriptive so my illustrations will be somewhat clear.

Joe lovingly and sweetly tells Sam, "I Love you"

Sam is preoccupied and concentrating on her cooking and not burning it and un-lovingly sounding and nonchalantly says "love you too" 

See how the two ways of saying love you differs?  Here is how a fight may break out. First of all, Joe does not see what Sam is doing.  So, because of Sam's unloving sounding response, Joe gets angry and says some things. Then, Sam says some things. Uh oh, it seems like the "crazy cycle" is about to erupt! That, was just an example, but I really believe  most fights between married couples begin that way.  The misuse of tone can lead to a mess.

Let me give another example:

Joe speaks to his boss concerning work related things.  His boss is Joe's superior.  So, Joe should really remain calm and civil when speaking to him. He really needs to be aware of his tone when conversing with the boss. Joe doesn't want to speak as if he seems higher than the boss but again, he needs to sound respectful.  You see how tone is so important?

One more example....

My friends Maila and Monte.

Maila needs Monte to pick up her parents at the airport when he gets off work. Maila doesn't ask Monte.  She is basically telling him what to do. Monte only sees Maila being very disrespectful for not asking and for sounding demanding by the tone in her voice. Another fight breaks out.....

Friends, I cannot stress enough how important tone is! I hope these examples that I gave really showed the importance of tone and I know we cannot be totally free from arguments with one another, but being aware of how you express your tone really matters and can lessen the arguments.

TBC...................... ......