Tongue Series Part 5: I Can't Hear You Because Your Voice Is Too Loud....

Do you know the volume you display in your voice can really affect people's moods and whole outlook of the conversations? Stop for a moment and think about it.  ....Right? I would think that the softer the voice, the more you would get your words heard and others attentions would be directed on you rather than trying to avoid you, either due to too annoyingly and irritated sounding loud voices or maybe too soft of a voice that one can't hear anything. That would be annoying. I guess be aware of how the volume in your voice is.

Think about it. If you begin speaking with someone and that person suddenly decides to increase the volume of his/her voice, perhaps, maybe because anger has entered their side of the conversation or  irritation, or some mood that requires loudness in their voice, what do you do? Well, I would think the talk would most likely plummet from being a friendly or nice conversation.  If one person begins to change in volume for the worse, it's most likely possible the other person would try to "one up" the other person when their turn to talk came. It would probably be a chaotic cycle of extreme loudness in the voices. Who likes to be a part of that?  I know I don't. 

So, how do we fix it you say?  Well, I think we can't really do much.  But, be aware of our volume I guess. Just like I said we should be aware of tone, pretty much the same awareness. I know I can get really loud, especially when I am mad.  I try when I can remember to lower my voice even when I am mad, Try is the operative word.  I would love to next say that eventually I became used to the always remembering to keep my volume soft when I found myself in an argument or leading up to one, but that wouldn't be true. 

I do want to mention, that from my experience of watching out how my speaking volume grows and being able to control and keep it pretty monotone and not letting my voice get too loud, I have found it helps a lot. To be honest, in an argument and following the other persons very loud, and  sometime yelling, voice comes my softer tone which appears to be very helpful. I could remember the tense and very uncomfortable and angry conversation transforming for the better and having both parties engaged in laughter, and even forgetting the initial argument!  See, volume really does affect the way we communicate with each other. Think about it, would you prefer speaking to someone in a nice volume or would you rather be having a yelling match?  Yup, I thought so..................


TBC................................