What is the first thing that comes to mind after hearing the word harsh? For some, it may be physical abuse. For others, may be verbal abuse. I honestly wouldn't know. It could be different for everyone.
For today's writing, I would like to focus on voices being harsh. I am thinking we have all heard a harsh noise either directed to ourselves or other people. Right? If you are one that hasn't ever heard a harsh noise, then be thankful. Because, it really sounds mean.
No wonder Jesus speaks about not being harsh so much in the Bible. He wants speakers to have gentleness and softness because it turns away wrath. Speaking with harsh words can really affect people negatively to the highest power. I know it's just words, but words can make a dagger that could go straight to your heart if utilized harshly.
Are you guys thinking it's not as bad as physical abuse? The only way you are correct in thinking that is because you will not be physically hurt. However, if you are verbally abused, you'll be hurt mentally and emotionally.
Either way it sucks right? The question is how do you change me or that person? Well, my thoughts is humans cannot change. Please don't misunderstand they can not change on their own. They need the help of God to change them.
So, don't feel discouraged if that's how you feel because you're just not witnessing a change either in your own self or in someone else. I have a friend who shared with me that when she first got married, her husband was so very harsh in his words. He was so very harsh and his harshness traveled on to a very high volume when a disagreement was about to erupt.
What did the wife do? Well, besides praying for her husband, she did something else. Or, maybe I should say that she didn't. She didn't argue. She didn't raise her voice. She didn't have a mean tone or big volume when she spoke. She followed the word of God. It says that wives should submit to their husband. Where is she now? That verbal abuse she had to undergo was then. Now, the husband has been redeemed. I'm sure, for the most part, the harshness in his voice went down. However, I'm also sure there are a few times when the harshness may return
That story from my friend totally encourages me because I'm a wife as well. And, I am pretty sure that there's no marriage that is perfect. My own marriage suffers from a lack of total submission. Periodically, an argumentative spirit, and harsh sounds come from both of our mouths. To reiterate, no marriage is perfect, including my own.
How does any type of marriage get on the road to redemption? We certainly have to pray for our husband or wife. Husbands are you loving your wives the way they define love? Wives, are you respecting your husband?
Encouraging thought of the day:
Perhaps, if the love tank is being filled for both parties, the husband or the wife will not have to turn to harshness.
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