Okay, last week the Lord spoke to my heart. And, I felt like it was time to go back to doing a series. So, yeah I'm doing a series. I'm calling it "Fibs about Marriages." Kinda makes me think of coach Thibs, remember of the old coach from the Chicago Bulls? Why Garpax let him go was beyond me. I still don't get it. With that said, let's go to the first day of the series.
Fib #1. And They Lived
Happily Ever After
Yeah, that sounds so nice. However, it's not true. Or, it can be true, we just don't know how. So they should take "happily-ever-after" out. Maybe, just put...Ever After?
Well, yeah you can use it in fairy tales. Fairy tales are not reality. Friends, don't misunderstand. We can end up living happily ever after. However, I don't think that is common nowadays. I could quote and research and then share with you some divorce rates that are probably sky high. That's just my opinion.
As I was saying earlier, we can definitely end up happily ever after with our spouse. However, I think there is a condition. I mean I understand you should love your spouse unconditionally, of course. That is what God wants us to do. Right?
However, I am just thinking in that there is no "Get out of jail" card with the spouses. When things may become messy and difficult to forgive, that is when we must turn to God for comfort, guidance, and grace.
Fellow spouses, again I reiterate, do you want to live happily ever after with your spouse? Again, I say, the perfect spouse may not happen in your lifetime. Because, that would mean perfection. And, y'all know my thoughts on perfection.
Fellow spouses, myself included, and future spouses, please listen to my next few thoughts. My friends, if you want a semi-perfect life with your husband or wife, we have to work! Well, of course the number one thing in our marriage is Christ has to be the center, the main foundation of our marriages!
Pause break, I needed a straw for my coffee so I asked somebody for help. And, I gave a card to this nice lady. All right, I forgot. I'm so sorry. I forgot your name. I pray that you will be encouraged by my writings!
Okay where was I? Oh yes, friends, if you do not have Christ in the center of your marriage, your marriage will totally falter. I'm not saying maybe a full-blown divorce, but it will falter. Take it from me. I've seen it in other marriages, my own marriage, it happens.
I think when we first got married, Joe and I made sure to be involved in our Bible devotions. At the time and even now, we are reading devotions on marriages. They help tremendously. There have also been times when we just skip days. And I'm noticing those are the times I can see some negative emotions that will happen in our marriage.
So, the bottom line is living happily ever after is a total fib! It's a fib unless you work on making it not a fib. Work together as a couple. But first work with this equation. First it's God. Then it's husband (wife). Please be sure you are following God and his commands you are feeling he is putting in your life. Then, wives you must follow the husband. My husband once told me when I was being very argumentative, that I need to follow him and listen to him, because God is leading him. If you don't think he is, pray, pray, PRAY for him. He is a human too.
TBC.......
Ephesians 5:23 ESV
For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
Ephesians 5:25 ESV
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
Ecclesiastes 9:9 ESV
Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.
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