Well, what do you think about that? Let me share my deep thoughts. First of all, I'm going to ask you to read my title again in your head. Then I want you to think whether you think it's true or it's not. I totally see this as a controversial subject but I'm going to try to attack it and give my deep thoughts!
Does your husband or your wife tell you straight out you need to change this about yourself? And when they say that, how do you feel? Let me share something with you guys.
For me personally, yes my husband tells me at times that I really need to change this about myself. He's not mean when he says it but he says it. I, as well, have feelings that my husband needs to change stuff about himself. I'm about to share my deep thoughts of this subject and I really want you guys to think.
I totally believe that sometimes the words that my husband has to say to me are words from God. If they are negative words that my husband says they're not words of God and they probably are from the evil one. I guess I will say that your discerning spirit will be holding up a red flag and the Holy Spirit will totally be knocking on your heart. So, watch out for that.
Folks, do you hear what I'm saying or I mean read when I'm saying? I totally do not, well did not, really believe that. Doesn't it make more sense to say to somebody, "buddy I am who I am, so don't try to change me just accept me for what I am." Doesn't that sound better? Well guys it's a fib!
Your spouse is trying to speak to you with God's words saying that you need to change this about yourself. I'm still trying to grasp that thought. I'm still trying to be obedient to that thought.
What I am sharing is really a hard pill to swallow and is the honest to God hurtful or painful truth. Folks, we have to be okay with and accept and really listen and understand when our spouses tell us there is something we need to change about ourselves.
Marriage is about the soft and gentle sides and the rough and tough sides as you go on the Earth. We need to understand that. And we need to be more gracious and loving and gentle and walk with God in our marriage.
I will say it again, whether we like it or not, God uses our spouses to help us smooth out our rough edges in life. So, whether we like it or not, we need to listen to what our spouses say we need to change about ourselves, because it might be from God.
I will also say that yes timing means everything. However, I will say that when God tells our hearts that we need to tell our spouses something, we need to be the bigger man and just listen and respect what our spouse has to say? I say that our spouse needs to be gentle and loving and kind in their words. I know it may be a painful truth but try to smooth it out a little bit before you tell the spouse.
So, please, listen to what your spouse says you need to change about yourself. It may well be from God Himself. And even if your spouse says things about you at the wrong time, in the wrong way, and with the wrong motive, try to be man or woman enough.
The End
2 Timothy 3:16 ESV
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;
Proverbs 12:15 ESV
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.
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