I know that the Lord doesn't necessarily want us to talk bad about people. Remember he's about us wanting to encourage others? I don't know what you guys think about that but I personally, do not think of that all of the time. Hey I'm human!
I remember what my husband would tell me sometimes when he would know I would be meeting with my girlfriends or he would accidentally hear a little bit of my conversation when I would be on the phone with my friend. It would be something to the nature of "yeah keep talking bad about me", or "let them know all the bad stuff I do to you, you're good at that!."
Um. Oops. My bad! Words like that are actually a good reminder that I shouldn't be good at that. I should not have been talking bad about anyone. Wow, do I forget that a lot! Or, maybe it's not necessarily that I forgot it but I don't want to follow it? I can say it is a Filipino thing. Because I see that a lot with our culture. However I can't say that because that's everyone!
So, I guess just like we've known since we were little. If we have nothing nice to say about anyone, then don't say anything at all! I'm going to tweak that last sentence a little bit and say if you have nothing nice to say about anyone just say it to a wall. Fellow Christians, we know to spit out and pour out all of our bad feelings to God!
In the Bible, remember Job? I spoke about him before. Basically, what happened was that the devil tortured job. And, God allowed it! Despite all the hardships he had to go through, he never cursed God! Job's friends were there for him. Well, yeah maybe physically. However, I wouldn't say they were giving him good advice or comfort. Even the wife of Job was not very comforting or offering really good advice as well. She told him to curse God and die! Do you think that's what Job needed to hear!?
Oh, one thing I want to add is this. This thought is directed to husbands and wives or people with significant others who are "going steady." If you were genuinely having some communication issues or you really just feel like pouring out those frustrations on someone. Do you want to perhaps, hear from people that you were in the right and your loved one was the one who was wrong? You know what I'm talking about! You want some kind of reassurance that you are in the right! The wife wants to hear that the husband was in the wrong. The husband wants to hear the other person say that the wife was the one who was wrong.
If so, please don't find someone and start speaking with someone of the opposite sex. I'm talking about in person or on the phone. Because, read this! What you are about to do is what you should only do with your spouse. And, that is become intimate. I don't mean in the literal sexual sense. I mean what you would be doing is opening yourself up to a conversation where you would be sharing your "Deep Thoughts." Oh wow isn't that a cute pun? LOL Sorry.
That type of talk or conversation should only be between you and your spouse. Oh, and of course God! I think that's why we see today a lot of divorce and breakups. Aside from physical attraction to the opposite sex, people please we also need to be careful. Make sure we do not let ourselves become vulnerable in front of someone of the opposite sex when the two of you are alone. You will be open to falling into intimacy both mental and hopefully for the kept men and women, not the other way.
Matt Redman : Intimacy
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