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My husband and I see each other probably more than any normal married couple. However, we hardly get to know each other's heart. Are there any
couples there that feel the same? It's like we see each other a lot. But, we don't! Does that make any sense to you guys? Probably not? Maybe?

Let me try super hard to elaborate on what I'm trying to say. Basically, think of it like this. We see the physical characteristics about each other. However, what's in my heart and what's in his heart will seldom come out in the open. And, because of our lack of that kind of communication, I believe our marriage will suffer.

Joe is at times negatively
puzzled and would
voice his concerns and mention
a sentence like this. "Aren't you a communication major? And, you don't know how to communicate!"

Ouch! Well, that was a dagger to the heart! Wait, so all those years I spent in school studying, taking final exams, writing papers, etc all about communication stuff was for nothing! I repeat ouch!

I know! I know! Words were probably spoken out of frustration or anger! Fellow wives, isn't that how it always is? Forgiving and forgetting is not as easy as it seems.

Anyway, sorry to get away from the topic. Let's continue! As I was saying before, my husband and I do see each other often at times. However, we don't. So, what did me and my husband decide to do? I'll tell you.

We decided to make date nights every now and then. Nothing big.
Just something like this. When both of us has free time, we save a little piece of our brains or pieces of our hearts for each other. I know the next sentence I'm about to say may not even happen. But, it's a deep thought.

Maybe, when you decide to spend that quality time with your husband or wife, try this. If both of you guys have money, maybe go to a nice restaurant and get all dressed up and have a nice dinner. If you don't have money go to like a McDonald's or
Another fast food restaurant? Or
make some peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and drive to the beach and eat there. Or you can try what I'm about to say next.

Oh, before I get to that, let me share
something. This past September was mine and my husband's 11 year wedding anniversary. I really wanted to go to a drive-in movie. However, the closest one was probably a few hours away. My husband loves me but, I wouldn't want him to drive that far just for a movie. So, what I decided to do was this. I told Joe not to worry. Let's stop at
the condo, get my iPad, stop at 7-eleven and get some snacks. Then, go across the street to the beach and have our own drive-in movie! And, the end result? That ended up to be very nice!

The last two date nights me and my husband had went like this. For one of them we went to Aldis and just spent time together grocery shopping. Another time we went to Mariano's! Again, grocery shopping. Friends, I think that was by far one of the best date nights we've ever had. We were communicating with each other in a more intimate way. It was so nice! Oh, also try not to have any electronics around when you are deciding  to spend time with your spouse. Trust me and Glady.We both agree that electronics should be put away when you are deciding to spend quality time with the spouse. We agree, and you guys may as well. You don't want to
Feel like your second place or that you are not enough to satisfy your spouse. Seriously, think about it why exactly would you need to be doing something else when you're supposed to be spending time with your spouse? Put the electronics off to the side. You can always revisit them later.

What comes to mind is the Bible story of Abraham and Sarah. Sarah was unable to bear Abraham children. So, once Abraham
was presented with the choice of sleeping with another woman , who was Hagar, Abraham chose to stray. Yes, Sarah the wife may have introduced the sin of Hagar having sex with Abraham in order to bear him children. However, Abraham still had a choice. And, he chose unwisely.

I think what we
wives and husbands need to realize is this.
Is there something that is lacking from the husband to the wife or the wife to the husband? Perhaps Love? Respect?
If either or is missing 1 can expect not good things. For example if one spouse is not getting what the Lord says they should be getting from their spouse, you can probably expect the other spouse to be trying to get it from other people. Why do you think infidelity or the divorce rate is Sky High?

How are things going in your marriage? I guess that popular saying
goes well with this message, "Only you can prevent forest fires!" Well only you can prevent your marriage from splitting up! .Well, that's it for now. Hope you and your loved one has a wonderful day!

Ephesians 5:33 

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:1‭-‬5 NIV

Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

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