Monk Marriage

I think I've said this multiple times in my writings that I'm a married woman. So, I would say I'm pretty knowledgeable of the subject I will be talking about.  Do most if not some arguments span from us expecting too much without even letting them know what's really in our hearts.  We get angry at our spouse because they're not doing what we want them to do. Wives, especially think that husbands know what we, wives are thinking right? Or, does this sound familiar when our husband's ask something like say, " Are you ok?"  We end up saying, " Yes" when in our minds the answer is no, can you hug me? Sound familiar?

I honestly sometimes feel sorry for husbands because wives are difficult sometimes. We want or expect the husbands to do the impossible sometimes.. They don't know what's on our minds. Why don't we skip the headaches and screaming matches for both the husband and wife and seek a monks marriage? I mean we could just put all dependence on God and that way when our spouses disappoint us we won't get so mad because we will just focus on being grateful with the good things he or she does for us. Perhaps, instead of expecting everything from our spouses, let's  lower our expectations and expect nothing. I think that way saves you from feeling disappointed big time!

The benefits of being married to a godly woman, but with a monk’s attitude, expecting nothing, depending on God, and so being genuinely grateful for whatever my spouse chooses to bless me with. Do you see your attitude as filled with gratitude, or filled with resentment? How would having a “monk’s marriage” improve your relationship with your spouse? - Breathe Spiritual Passion Into Your Marriage

Luke 6:34-38 ESV

And if you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, to get back the same amount. But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful. “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”

Ephesians 5:20 ESV

Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,