Power Series Part 56: Power Of Respect

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My husband and I are actually going through very intensely the book love and respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs with two couples on different days. What is up with the intense scrutinizing of this book, you may ask yourself? Well, you know what I think? I think God really thinks I need to work a little bit harder on respect. More importantly, I need to exert a little more effort on  giving respect to my husband. Yep that's what I think. Also it's good to get different perspectives from a married couple that is just starting out and an older married couple that has been married for years. Again, it's good to get different Deep Thoughts.

Time to give my deep thoughts on respect. Oh, what can I say? People really need respect. As a wife, really reading up on the love and respect book I am going to say this. I know I don't follow it very much. In my defense, the intention to give respect is always there. What is rather difficult is the follow-through. That is what seems to more than most times become a fail. Wives, our husbands  really need and want respect!

Please don't misunderstand. I'm not saying wives don’t need respect. Of course we do! I am just saying that husbands prefer respect over love. Wives like Love more than respect. That may differ with someone. But, from what I've seen and read oh, I think that is a pretty good “ correct thinking “ deep thought.

Perhaps, you are thinking that love is the same as respect. I beg to differ because of this. Dr. Eggerich brought up in his book, one doesn't love their boss but one does respect their boss. So, I guess they are not the same huh? Nope I guess not

Maybe, you are a wife like me? You don't exactly know what your husband's definition is of respect? I mean I kind of knew and I just wanted him to elaborate more on how he personally felt about the definition of respect. So, what I did was ask him.

I think he really appreciated the fact that I did ask him. The answer will probably vary with everyone. I am telling you ladies, asking him that makes him  feel respected! Just yesterday, my husband texted me thanking me for saying something to him. He pointed out that he was thankful I was showing him respect. I don’t really remember right now what day exactly was about. I'm not going to lie. When I did read that text, I did feel a little warm and fuzzy inside. A little giddy. I felt loved.

Yeah, that sounded nice. It can be like that in your marriage too. Sad to say that it doesn't last as a lifelong feeling in your marriage. Trust me, a couple hours later in that day the crazy cycle begins to spin again. In order to try to avoid the crazy cycle from spinning friends, it is imperative to work on love and respect in your marriage!

TBC.......

Ephesians 5:33 NIV

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Aretha Franklin: Respect

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