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I have been a Christian since I was 15 years old. I have been married to my loving husband since I was 28 years old. We both are still learning about each other everyday. We both are good willed people. But, we both mess up, alot.
A wife will expect certain things from her hubby. And, a husband will also expect certain things from his wife. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is the author of the Love and Respect book amongst many other helpful books for the husband and wife.
Oh, pause break.
Let me first mention how I began communicating with this well known man. If anyone personally knows me, they know I like to keep a lot of stuff. I mean from my past.
Way back in 2010, 2 years into my marriage, my husband and I were new to this thing called marriage. Like any other married couple, we would
get into heated
arguments.
Years after I emailed the doctor, this happened. 5 years later, I received an email fom him. His email said this. " How are you like Sarah?" (His wife) 😂 I understood because I knew he was a very busy man.
Lately we've been communicating again. This time with more of a quicker response. He still gives me some advice if needed. And, I gladly give him some input regarding my marriage or other stuff, when asked. So, he can include some examples or thoughts in his latest book.
My husband and I every now and then forget about the principles we learned regarding the Love and Respect book. So, we are trying to always keep back with it.
We were reading it with one couple, and we are still reading with another couple, and I am reading it with another fellow wife. And, every time I read it I am always surprised. Or, I read something I know I should be doing but
for some reason I just forget and I dont do it!
Well, praise God that I am reading this with another wife. The Lord really led me back to the book so that I can read it with my friend. She is seriously on the brink of divorcing her husband. But, I pray that if this wife would just apply more of the " respect " principles that the husband needs, they won't have to be getting a divorce!
One part of the hook I wanted to share with you was this. S2S contact AKA shoulder to shoulder contact.
Yep, that's what's up with the title.
Wives? Have you thought about that? Sometimes, well probably most times that's really all the husbands want.
I'll give you an example. I don't dislike superhero movies or sitcoms of the like on Netflix. However, I don't really know anything about the "Marvel" world. At least not as much as my husband. Nor, would I mind changing the channel and watching a chick flick.
However, I know my husband loves to watch the superhero movies.
I know he loves to watch Star Wars movies! And, as his wife I would like to be with my husband, spend time with my husband and definitely show respect to my husband. Yes, I should have a desire wanting to fulfill his needs, as I hope he tries to meet mine as well.
How am I going to do that? Am I just going to go to the other room so I can watch my chick flick? No, because being with him, spending time with him, is loving to me! So, what I'm going to choose to do is just be with my husband as he watches the superhero movies. No, I'm not going to be talking about what we should have for dinner that night? Or complaining about this or that. No!
Remember? This is the time I'm
just going to keep my mouth shut. I will just sit down with my husband, enjoy the quality time we are spending with each other and just watch the Star Wars movie. without saying a word.
If you haven't done that wives, why not try it? Watch a movie. Or, watch him doing some yard work. Basically, watch him doing one of his favorite pastime activities and give him the shoulder to shoulder contact he wants. Let's see how he'll probably shock you with how he will respond. Watch and be pleasantly surprised by his loving actions!
I thank Dr.Emerson for creating a book that thoroughly explains those two feelings. A husband desires respect from the wife. The wife desires love from her husband. Of course it goes both ways. Maybe you husbands and wives can check this book out!
Personally, it has thelped my marriage, and is continuing. And now I am thankful to share Dr. Emerson's deep thoughts regarding the principles of love and respect! I repeat. Fellow married couples check this book titled, Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs.
get into heated
arguments.
Years after I emailed the doctor, this happened. 5 years later, I received an email fom him. His email said this. " How are you like Sarah?" (His wife) 😂 I understood because I knew he was a very busy man.
Lately we've been communicating again. This time with more of a quicker response. He still gives me some advice if needed. And, I gladly give him some input regarding my marriage or other stuff, when asked. So, he can include some examples or thoughts in his latest book.
My husband and I every now and then forget about the principles we learned regarding the Love and Respect book. So, we are trying to always keep back with it.
We were reading it with one couple, and we are still reading with another couple, and I am reading it with another fellow wife. And, every time I read it I am always surprised. Or, I read something I know I should be doing but
for some reason I just forget and I dont do it!
Well, praise God that I am reading this with another wife. The Lord really led me back to the book so that I can read it with my friend. She is seriously on the brink of divorcing her husband. But, I pray that if this wife would just apply more of the " respect " principles that the husband needs, they won't have to be getting a divorce!
One part of the hook I wanted to share with you was this. S2S contact AKA shoulder to shoulder contact.
Yep, that's what's up with the title.
Wives? Have you thought about that? Sometimes, well probably most times that's really all the husbands want.
I'll give you an example. I don't dislike superhero movies or sitcoms of the like on Netflix. However, I don't really know anything about the "Marvel" world. At least not as much as my husband. Nor, would I mind changing the channel and watching a chick flick.
However, I know my husband loves to watch the superhero movies.
I know he loves to watch Star Wars movies! And, as his wife I would like to be with my husband, spend time with my husband and definitely show respect to my husband. Yes, I should have a desire wanting to fulfill his needs, as I hope he tries to meet mine as well.
How am I going to do that? Am I just going to go to the other room so I can watch my chick flick? No, because being with him, spending time with him, is loving to me! So, what I'm going to choose to do is just be with my husband as he watches the superhero movies. No, I'm not going to be talking about what we should have for dinner that night? Or complaining about this or that. No!
Remember? This is the time I'm
just going to keep my mouth shut. I will just sit down with my husband, enjoy the quality time we are spending with each other and just watch the Star Wars movie. without saying a word.
If you haven't done that wives, why not try it? Watch a movie. Or, watch him doing some yard work. Basically, watch him doing one of his favorite pastime activities and give him the shoulder to shoulder contact he wants. Let's see how he'll probably shock you with how he will respond. Watch and be pleasantly surprised by his loving actions!
I thank Dr.Emerson for creating a book that thoroughly explains those two feelings. A husband desires respect from the wife. The wife desires love from her husband. Of course it goes both ways. Maybe you husbands and wives can check this book out!
Personally, it has thelped my marriage, and is continuing. And now I am thankful to share Dr. Emerson's deep thoughts regarding the principles of love and respect! I repeat. Fellow married couples check this book titled, Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs.
Chris August: Restore
Wanna get the Love and Respect book?
https://www.amazon.com/Love-Respect-Desires-Desperately-Needs/dp/1591451876
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